When Haters Can't Stop You
“Beware of those who can treat you like the devil himself during the day, say their prayers at night, and sleep soundly with the fan on medium.”
Most people don’t want you to outshine them. Once they reach the height of their career, they don’t want to encounter someone who has the potential to go higher. Once they reach the glass ceiling, there is no telling what can happen when they are competing with someone who can shatter it.
Of course, those people won’t admit they are intimidated. It shows in how difficult they make it for you to do your job. It shows in their refusal to address you with your proper title. It shows in their cunning way of saying they are trying their best to help you succeed, while their actions prove otherwise. It shows in their frustrated facial expressions when they try to leave you out of business dealings, only to find out that people only want to work with them if they involve you. It shows in their utter confusion as they try to figure out how their attempts to shut you out only draws you greater attention.
That’s why they say before you diagnose yourself with depression, be sure you aren’t surrounded by people hell bent on making you feel that way. There are people who are downright hateful, and we see this every day. What we miss are the masters of iniquity.
As comedian Rickey Smiley argued, there is a difference between a hater and a worker of iniquity. You see, haters are indeed negative and toxic people. Yet, they usually don’t have the time or the patience to stop you from being your best. However, workers of iniquity make it their job to hate you. These are the people whose sole purpose in life is to make yours a living hell.
We usually watch those who have the occasional negative or condescending comment to make. However, we fail to watch those who often wake up in the morning with the intent of bringing you down. It’s those who plan their day around devising ways to upset you. Essentially, it’s how they thrive. Beware of those who can treat you like the devil himself during the day, say their prayers at night, and sleep soundly with the fan on medium.
Yet, what they fail to realize is that their attempts are utterly useless. Regardless of whether or not they think they are working against you, the reality is that they are actually working for you. They are pushing you towards greatness whether they like it or not. That’s why I thank those who help me, but I also genuinely thank those who don’t—in their own way, both are equally responsible for the person I am today.
Dr. Nicole M. Robinson